《她厌男，她是我女友》她厌男作者谈女性主义者的爱情历程

"Thirty-something feminists love life is almost like the zombie road (The Walking Dead)." This is what I said to my friend not long ago. When we were just over thirty, it was at most a "jungle," which means that things have deteriorated a lot since then.

The drama "The Walking Dead" depicts humanitys attempt to survive in a world full of zombies, representing the post-apocalyptic genre of the television series. Although there are related comics besides the drama, I have only watched the first season of the drama, and I guess thats what I meant when I said that - living alone in this stressful and bitter world.

If I want to find someone else, I have to go out first, but there are zombies everywhere in society. In case I am unfortunately bitten by a zombie, I will also become a zombie, and there is not much evidence of other survivors outside. That is to say, the probability of people who share the same blood flowing as me is very low. In order to find that person, I must take the high risk of being chased by zombies and being bitten by zombies.

Conclusion: living alone in place is better.

This accurately reflects my, and our, love reality.

My friends laughed at me, but I shed tears in my heart.

Sometimes my rationality controls me, telling me that I must not be incorporated into the inherent patriarchy, and the slogan of no marriage, no love, no sex, and no pregnancy reverberates in my mind. However, sometimes the fatal loneliness captures me, and I bitterly ask myself: Cant I find that person who will spend the rest of my life with me and give this hard life meaning?

Honestly, it would be great to spend the rest of my life with someone I love and trust.

At least I think so, and this kind of thinking should not be wrong or particularly crazy.

However, in this society, every day you can see news such as "obscene language in private chat rooms," "sharing of stolen video content in the cloud," "sexual transaction forum ranking sixth in the world," "violence against women and killing women." The discussion of online sexual crimes has attracted public attention, while "if this is considered a crime, then most Korean men will go to jail" has become apparent. Womens belief that they can “trust the man in front of them with all their heart and love him forever” has become an unrealistic and crazy idea.

Even though love is irrational, if the tragic reality we face today is irrational, it is impossible to fall in love with someone. To put it bluntly, the probability of being bitten by a zombie is very high for someone trying to find true love. Just a few weeks ago, when I wrote this article, wealthy and handsome celebrities were just exposed to using drugs to rape and spread stolen videos. (The truth of the incident is still being confirmed.)

"The Walking Dead" is a bloody and murderous drama, but it is also the sad reality of Korea in 2019.

Therefore, the desire to live out myself and protect my own life clashes head-on with the idea of sharing my life with someone, especially for women.

There are definitely some males who feel wronged by this. Men are also afraid of falling in love and getting married, and they will lose their freedom and spend a lot of money. I believe everyone understands such statements without elaboration.

However, my date may be afraid of using dating violence against me; when I break up, maybe the other party will kill me and my family; doing underground sex work behind my back, causing me to contract sexually transmitted diseases; if I accidentally get pregnant, I have to face the fear of illegal abortions alone; the man who is considerate and romantic in front of me may be spreading other womens voyeuristic videos in private chat rooms; maybe I am the one who was secretly filmed and feel afraid...

Can men feel the pain of being whipped by patriarchy and sexual objectification every day? Have they ever experienced the fact that they are humans with brains besides breasts and genitals that are constantly denied? Have they been tortured by the compulsive thoughts of worrying about whether their arms look too thick or if their belly fat is showing? Have they ever been depressed because their partner only cared about their own pleasure during sex and did not care if they were comfortable or not?

To be honest, can they understand?

If you think I am exaggerating, then go ask the women around you.

The loneliness of being chased by a lion herd in the spring rain, and the social threats of becoming a lonely elderly person and dying alone are indeed facts. These dystopian realities often make me mentally split. Ah, what should I do? I jump and twist dance, trying my best to depict the worries and hesitations caused by these realities and write this novel.

"She hates men, she is my girlfriend."

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[South Korea] Min Ji-hyeong/2023/China Friendship Publishing Company.

Of course, the her in the novel made a choice.

However, in the current situation, knowing that going out is highly likely to be bitten by a zombie, is choosing to live alone the right choice? Other choices must also have meaning for this choice to be meaningful, right? Now this choice is only a backup plan for survival.

If this society does not change and the threat of zombies does not disappear, women will not blindly go out, that is, women will not easily offer their necks like in the past, allowing zombies to bite.

In fact, this society is changing. On April 11, 2019, the abortion law in South Korea was declared unconstitutional, and the abortion law finally entered history. I sincerely hope that all the stories mentioned in this novel can become history in the not-too-distant future, and then we can laugh at "there were still such things in 2018" wouldnt that be great?

At the moment of 2019, "The Walking Dead" has not yet ended. I dont know what that world will be like, but it will probably be like all Hollywood stories-the human race will eventually win and return to a peaceful world. If the ending is not like this, it will be very distressing because it represents the end of humanity. This is not just the story of "The Walking Dead", but the sad reality we face. Although it is cruel, we must embody the positive nature of women, even if hope is slim, we must embrace expectation, shout "we are not dead yet" and stand up to fight.

I hope that the countless stories in this novel can become a small gunshot in the struggle to create a "happy ending."

Everyone should know that zombies deny that they are zombies.

No, zombies should say that they want to deny that they are zombies.

What do these zombies want to express?

Lets talk about it seriously now.

May 2019