"The Mastery of Love: A Small Helpful Guide"

I want to share a book that I recently read. It helped me a little bit and hopefully its going to be helpful to you too if youre in a bad condition of your life or youre having a problem feeling happy.

So last year, I graduated and got my masters degree. I thought that with my 30 years old age and the competitive job environment in Xian, I could not find a job there. Of course, I applied for jobs before I graduated but that didnt end well. So I went to Xiamen for work. But after working in Xiamen for 2 months, I got depressed and anxious because of some out-of-nowhere reasons. Seriously, I still could not figure that out. I had to find a fortune teller, so the fortune teller told me that I was in bad luck last year and I would have 2 major job switches, and indeed he was right. This is not the main point. So I was out of a job for 4 months, then I worked in a public school in Xian for 4 months. But every day was a torture for me. Then I quit. And meanwhile, my health was not in a good place either. I didnt get my menstruation regularly and I had to see traditional Chinese doctors many times.

So the main reason for all of the things above, I guess I had too much self-blame, and being 30 years old with no stable job and no family was a huge hit for me. So I want to share this small with you. It helped me a little bit by teaching me to love myself.

The book is divided into chapters as follows:

1. Wounded Mind: In this chapter, the author describes the world as a mental hospital. How we pass our emotional diseases through family and school. We are full of judgement, blame, guilt, envy, anger, hate, sadness, and suffering. We created different images according to different groups of people.

2. The loss of innocence: We have an emotional body that perceives and accumulates emotional poisons. We are judging ourselves, "Im not good enough, Im not intelligent enough…" Then we are judging others. There is a parasite inside of our mind that steals our joy.

3. The man who didnt believe in Love: So the author told us a beautiful story about a man who didnt believe in love at all. He found a woman he wanted to be with. Once he wanted to prove his love for her, he used a miracle to melt his heart with the star and give it to the woman. It broke to million pieces and the woman was crying at home. So the alarm for this chapter is that happiness only comes inside of each of us. If we put our happiness to someone elses hand, sooner or later, the happiness is either going to be taken away or gone.

4. The track of love, The track of fear: There are 2 emotions in our life, one is love and another is fear. Fear is full of obligations, but love has no resistance, because simply we want to do it, its a game, we have fun with it.

5. The perfect relationship: When we are in a relationship, we cant make a dog a cat or make a cat a horse. We have to know what we want, when we want it, we have to know our need of our mind and body. Quote from the book, "When you present to be what you are not, youre going to fail. Once you accept yourself just the way you are, the next step is to accept your partner. And then communication through love and respect and love is the whole key to keep the relationship alive."

6. The magical Kitchen: Our heart is like a magical kitchen. If we open our heart, we already have all the love we need. There is no need to beg for love.

7. The dream Master: This chapter is very similar to the concept of the book "Secret". So basically, we have to stop the negative thinking in our mind and create a positive thinking instead.

8. Sex: The biggest Demon in Hell: Being shy for sex isnt just unique in China. Its a universal problem for people who are raised up in conservative families. Remember, human bodies are made for sex and pleasure. We have to stop judging ourselves for lots of things.

9. The Divine Huntress: Artemis was a divine huntress. She didnt need Hercules at all, but she wants to have him. Similar to chapter 7. When we are desperate for things, we become very unattractive and needy.

10. Seeing with Eyes of Love: Love comes inside of us. Love our body and love our partner. To quote from the book, "You have to love your body and allow your body to be free to just be, to be free to give, free to receive, without being shy, because shy is nothing but fear."

11. Healing within You. Start with Forgiveness: Everything above can start with forgiveness.

Im very grateful for my friends these days. They didnt despise me for my bad condition. They are there for me and consistently encourage me! And this book has also helped a bit. Hopefully, you enjoy the book as well!